I’ve always thought that on those “milestone days” in one’s life, a person should celebrate the occasion the way that pleases them most. I’m approaching one of those and, I must say, that I’m a little dismayed at how much posturing I’ve already seen related to what other people want, in “celebration” of the occasion. Maybe I’m being unrealistic; I don’t know. But it seems to me that on those kinds of days, the person who’s celebrating the occasion should be encouraged and supported to do so in a way that’s most meaningful to them.